Childhood is quite different from adulthood when we are cared for as frail and vulnerable people. As adults, we are starting to follow a new set of rules and understand that we are only interested in ourselves over time. No one can drive us to success, give us their shoulder to cry on, or thank us when we did something good. And eventually, men will always be smarter, stronger, and more beautiful than us.
1. There’s no point in sacrificing yourself for others.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “I do for you all I can?” As a rule, a cold answer follows, “But have I ever told you to do that?”Let’s be honest: our efforts are not wanted by the people around us. Most often, this obtrusiveness makes them feel uncomfortable and annoying. Codependent conduct is the only exception to this scenario— when both people are satisfied with such a relationship.
2. None of us will get a medal at work.
They claim that it was a horse that most served in the village, but it never became the village’s head. You will face a similar unpleasant truth sooner or later: your employer and colleagues will realize that you are prepared to do any kind of job. And while you’re hurting your wellbeing by putting too much pressure on yourself, while sipping on another cup of coffee, they’re going to quietly update their newsfeed on social media or gossip. Yet did you expect your employer to thank you for the hard work that your teacher would do back in kindergarten?
3. Body positivity is not about the absence of self-care.
Unshaved knives, broken teeth, and a failure to use hygiene products are likely to make you look more like an untidy person than a body-positive follower. The body-positive movement’s main idea is to kindly treat other people and consider every presence worthily.
At the same time, brazen phrases such as “I love my rolls” typically mask laziness, show a lack of desire to hit the gym and illustrate poor care of their wellbeing.
4. Appearance matters.
You can talk endlessly about your rich inner world and your soul’s beauty, but it still holds true the saying, “people judge a book by its cover.” Not only are they evaluating one’s professional skills in interviews, but also the candidate’s personality, as well as their ability to communicate with others. In fact, a comfortable and tidy-looking person has more potential than an untidy to go on a successful date.