It can reduce levels of anxiety when you are in love and have a healthy relationship, and this has been scientifically proven. You can even get a better look and feel less stressed at work. Hugging and kissing make you feel relaxed, safe and happy.
1. Love is sharing not only the good moments but also the bad ones.
Romantic love can last and is proved by studies. But the main thing is that you and you are taking action. Love is like a verb, not a noun. If you return home tired after work and see your partner waiting for an exciting night, there is a disconnect between the two of you instead of helping you. It doesn’t mean you need to break up right away, but you need a good clarification.
It can kill you emotionally if your partner just sees you as an item to have fun with all the time. You need to consciously adapt to your spouse’s needs.
2. True love is an action.
True love includes going through unpleasant times as well. According to psychologists, occasionally feeling lonely in your relationship is a common thing. It happens when their emotional connection is lost by a couple.
When you love one another, you’re trying to work on it to avoid misunderstandings. For example, some couples try to visit a psychologist in long-term relationships or try to talk more to each other to solve the loneliness problem.
Being with your partner should feel natural and work through anything to achieve the future you’ve been dreaming of, brick-by-brick.
3. You both know your boundaries and keep them.
A healthy relationship and love always have its limits. It’s like a certain compromise between both of you where no one wants to be the “dictator.” If your relationship is based solely on pleasure, there will be a problem sooner or later.
You need to talk in a healthy relationship and not be afraid to say something when you think that someone is moving beyond their limits. Choosing to engage in discussions, rather than quarrels, shows that you both trust each other.
Therapist Bridget Levy shares that understanding that limits using the words “always” and “never” do not work is crucial. You need to be concise and straightforward, of course, but it’s important to use the right words.
4. You share a common concept of what true love is.
You love each other, you spend together quality time, you forgive each other and you respect each other. Their desires and definition of love can be unique for all couples: some may prefer to travel, while others prefer to stay at home.
It was also studied that in a couple the meaning of love could shift. Serotonin levels return to normal during the first year, and the “obsessive” characteristics become milder. Therefore, love becomes more calm and mature.
5. Love means common goals and desires.
Harmony is a very difficult thing to build and it can help to reach common goals. But according to psychologists, there are some things you shouldn’t think about. First, make sure that what you want is specific and realistic.
Second, don’t forget to join in celebrating your success.
6. You share responsibilities.
It can be very traumatic and unhealthy for the relationship to feel that your partner is avoiding responsibility. Saying could affect anyone, but not doing it. True love doesn’t try to make you feel bad, but rather makes you feel better and more safe.
Many problems can be solved by a good talk. However, the reasons people are afraid of having a chat about responsibilities may vary from shame, to fear, to depression. So it’s always easier to get together and start talking about each other’s responsibilities and rights.
There is no imbalance when both people share responsibilities and nobody feels a heavier burden.
7. Your partner doesn’t try to change who you are and accepts your imperfections.
It can be frustrating if you are a creative person and your partner suddenly pressures you to switch the job you love because of money. Rather than trying to change our partners, it is a more constructive approach to inspire them to evolve. It can take the relationship to a whole new level by embracing and respecting who your partner is as an individual.
If you see the puzzled, lost or angry one of your loved ones, note that they have a right to their feelings. We are not robots, and we have a human experience for all of us. Even waking up in the morning with messy hair is OK (and normal).
8. If you want true love, there is no place for playing games.
Playing psychological games, victimizing triangles, and love triangles can take a lot of energy, and there is no guarantee that the response you want will be a person you care about. Some of the types of games people play are as follows:
- Sending mixed messages
- Making someone feel guilty to get something from them
- Testing
- Projecting and comparing
- Love triangles
Manipulation is not a solution. You can make a person jealous, for example, but their memory of this will never be erased.
9. There is always time for teamwork when you’re in love.
He’s with his buddies and you’re with your family. He is watching a movie in the bedroom, and in the living room, you are drawing. Sure, there should be space for a break and different activities from each other, of course, but there should also be some teamwork. For successful relationships, 64 percent of Americans believe sharing interests is very important.
It’s loving to share. And caring is a sign of true love. You’re moving to another city by car, for example. During this journey, try to support each other. One might drive, and the other might be the navigator.
10. You can be vulnerable to a person who loves you.
The society is pressuring us to ignore the fact that it’s OK to be responsive with a focus on being strong women and strong men. We are tasked with making decisions at work and with friends every day, but we can let go and be open to the person who really loves us.
In fact, research has shown that being vulnerable can sometimes be very appealing because we enjoy seeing other people’s transparency.
11. You become a better person when you’re in love.
You become a better person not because you are pushed by someone, but because it happens naturally. It can be a modern, healthier lifestyle, a shift of habits, or a home upgrade. A better life can be a sign of true love.
12. You start trying new things.
You may hate tap-dancing, but sometimes you do it just to make them happy with your loved one. Or you might suddenly want to try your partner’s new cuisine to share good vibes and a new experience.
Would you hear of other love signs? Will you consider them as they are when you love a partner? Please share your thoughts below!
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