What makes a woman cheat?
“I believe people cheat because either their needs aren’t being met in a relationship (physically and/or emotionally), or they are lacking something within themselves and they seek to fill the gap via the relationships outside of the person they are with” says Juliet Allen.
WHY WOMEN CHEAT
“Husbands are like pancakes. There’s no shame in throwing the first one out”– Jennifer Love Hewitt.
Affairs are usually associated with men, but many clinical research studies suggest that as many women as men have affairs. The stereotype of only men being cheaters has definitely changed. Unlike men who are mostly driven by the sexual act, women are driven by psychological and emotional aspects. These are some of the common reasons why a woman might need an affair:
She feels ignored
In general women need and desire intimacy, physical touch, mental and emotional attention. Women crave for attention from their partners and from now and then they like to hear how beautiful they are and how much she means to her partner. If she is not receiving this from your husband or boyfriend, it will only be a matter of time you seek it from another. Women deprived of attention, compliments and compassion usually have emotional affairs.
That doesn’t mean it won’t lead to romance. When a woman is ignored by her man, what is she supposed to do? What if she’s worked on trying to get his attention and failed time after time? When women are lacking fundamental needs, then it can be pretty normal to seek them where they can find them.
Mary Jones- 27* “Steve* and I had dated for four years, but over time we grew apart we started spending less time together. The intimacy dialed down and we stopped having romance and eventually there was no real physical contact. But I stuck with it because I and Steve got along fine. I started questioning myself if I was responsible, if it was my fault somehow and I’d lost my sex drive for some reason.
Things turned out for the better when I befriended a guy from work. His name started popping up a lot in my emails, our conversations changed from flirting to sexting, and we eventually kissed, and from that day, we couldn’t stop. I couldn’t wait to go to work every day. He was married and I had a boyfriend, the more time we spent together the more we realized how unhappy we were in our relationships. Cheating made me realize how bad things had gotten and how unhappy I was”
SHE IS NOT HAPPY IN THE SACK
“If the affair is the result of you feeling sexually or emotionally abandoned by your partner, then you may feel a degree of justification” says Gary Brown, Ph.D, a Los Angeles based psychotherapist.
A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed an active romance life. Romance is an essential part in any healthy relationship. When there is no sex for a long time, it can be a pointer that the relationship is not going well. It is quite normal that the amount of sex in any relationship will taper with time but if the sex vanishes completely, then something is not right. Maybe there is still sex in the relationship, but it has become bad, bad sex or no sex is equally damaging to a relationship.
It is hard enough being in a relationship where romance is insufficient and if coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before it drives her to cheat. Women are more attuned to their sexuality and know what they want in bed. They are more likely to have an affair because of an unfulfilling sex life.
Younger women especially tend to desire more frequent or different types of romance according to Meyers. Younger women often have more opportunities especially with applications like Tinder or OKCupid that connect you with local singles in your area.
“Women have four different reactions to a man’s impotence” says Margaret Ramage, a sexual relationship therapist. First is a feeling that she is not attractive enough or sexy enough. Second is suspicion, the conviction that her partner must be having an affair. Third is the feeling of relief if the woman never enjoyed romance in the first place.
