7 Things We Shouldn’t Do to Please Someone for Our Own Sake


We often try to show that we are flawless, to be liked and accepted by society. But understanding that no one is born out perfect is important. We can’t please everyone around us so we shouldn’t even try. If we accept ourselves as we are, we promote true joy and real relationships rather than doing what others want us to be.

1. Humblebragging doesn’t make you look modest.

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Humblebragging is seen more as misplaced modesty. One research suggests that humblebrag people are more insincere. Humblebragging seems to be more like part show-off and part-complaining that is nothing more than plain irritating. If you want to show off, just brag straight away.

2. Travelling to show off, rather than just discover and be present

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Another study reported that, instead of exploring the area, people typically travel for “social status and likes” Generally people choose the vacation haunts that will give them a nice backdrop for their Instagram images to evoke envy or impress others on social media. It’s time we stopped staring at our phones and expensive DSLRs, live in the moment and be grateful for what nature has to bring.

3. Impress your date to cover up fear of rejection

This generation has revolutionized the modern era of dating to impress each other with their so-called happy sides, rather than being honest. This is because either one or both of the couples spend time thinking about whether they like the other person or not. Understanding that being honest is always beneficial because the right person will always respect your sincerity and never leave your side.

4. Not being your authentic self

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Often we go the extra mile to impress someone, including doing more personal grooming, wearing fancy clothing, and just being more polite. That can be considered natural. We still show off only to survive, according to studies. But what doesn’t seem natural is when you become a totally different person to be able to please them and do something that you are not confident doing first. Perhaps you want to step away from that.

5. Showing off your relationship on social media

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Nowadays couples enjoy strutting their social media relationship to prove to each other and the world that their love is deep. A study claims this desire for posting tons of relationship posts is called exposure in relationships. The couples who feel insecure about the relationship, or who might feel a tad bit down about their partner, use social media sites for external affirmation to feel better. In other words, they may be relieved by supportive feedback from their network from their personal distress over the connection.

6. Extravagant spending on weddings

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Today, weddings are all about showing off money, impressing guests or just making a special ‘moment.’ Now, we ‘re not saying that having one is a bad idea, but the research itself suggests that having a big fat wedding may raise your chances of divorce. At the other hand, frugal weddings can potentially lead to long-lasting and happy marriages.

7. Abandoning your dreams

Having dreams and aspirations is one of the best ways to thrive in life, especially when you’ve worked through blood, sweat, and tears to attain them. You’ve come so far and life has taken you to this very moment, but it’ll all be in vain if you get tempted to downplay the things you have devoted your life to just for the sake of pleasing someone else. Don’t do this to yourself! You deserve the best of everything.

Have you or someone you know gone to great lengths to impress someone? Did it work? What lessons did it teach you? Share your story with us in the comments below.

Illustrated by Polina Chernevina and Natalia Tylosova