It can be difficult to find true love. But once it’s found, life itself, ideally, is simpler. It can make you feel like you’re floating above pink clouds or with one cruel thought keeping you up at night: whether or not they are the one.
It is sad, but true, that somebody we love so much may not turn out to be our partner for a lifetime. For the rest of your life, if you’re willing to commit to a marriage, you’ll need more than just love for true happiness.
1. You become each other’s mind reader.
This is not a drill for romance! Psychological research suggests that love can actually help connect your nervous system with your other important. You should understand their feelings, opinions and reactions after spending enough time together. It’s more than just knowing someone really well. You can understand each other at the same time and seamlessly, even in complete silence.
Try to point out something that you find funny the next time you’re together without saying something. So easily it has to be great to laugh together!
2. You share the same ideas for the future.
Once you find your life’s love, it’s time to think like a language as a couple. In the coming years of your life, you’ll probably want them to be there, so you’d a better dream of the future together. You don’t have to go after the same dreams, but you will always find a way to keep your lives together regardless of what they are. One of the most important elements of a life-long love tale is to feel the opportunity to be together.
3. You think it’s worth it.
Commitment is vital to maintaining a relationship, particularly when we’re talking about the one and it’s not always an all-in-one package. You have to compromise, that shouldn’t be surprising. But if it’s wrong, you’re going to do it naturally. Psychologists at Kobe University in Japan prove that partnerships will not last long without any compromise. This does not mean that your reputation has to be compromised or given up. Just be rational enough about your decisions to create room for the enjoyment of another man.
4. Your brain functions differently.
When it comes to the subject of love, we like to talk about the soul, but everything happens in the mind. A New York experiment by Stony Brook University demonstrated that passion influences brain reactions. When you think of the one, your brain’s reward centre is stimulated, increasing the levels of dopamine. You can also say that your stomach feels like butterflies.
5. You become each other’s support.
You’ll find the boost you need with your soulmate at the end of a long day. You’re not going to feel depressed or insufficient to be the cheerleader for each other along the way. Hearing the person you love most is going to make you love yourself even more.
6. You feel content with no extra effort.
It’s significant. It will feel normal when you find your life partner — one of the biggest events in human life. You’re going to feel like you’ve been living like this already and easily internalize your new source of joy. This will make the partnership feel relaxed.
You’re not going to become a person all the time talking about their relationship because you don’t have anything to prove to others. Your social media accounts won’t fill with your pair of pictures because while focused on the relationship itself, you don’t have time for that stuff.
7. You want to introduce them to your loved ones.
Basic psychology says we all need affirmation in our lives and it is particularly satisfying if it comes from our loved ones. That’s why we share with them the good news. We recreate our own happiness by including the people that are unique to us.
The same impulse will kick in when you meet the one and you will be impatient to show them to your family and close friends. According to a report, it is also important to build a stable support system around your flourishing relationship with the good intentions of your loved ones.
8. You find pleasure inside and outside the bedroom.
Intimacy is significant, but the chemistry of a healthy relationship is not solely responsible for it. In the right arms, however, the physical connection will feel different, the attraction to the one will always be around, even with thick winter clothes on. Sometimes an expression, a smile, or a quirk will make you feel the most special person you’ve ever found for you.
9. You feel different without them.
One of the key points to spend several long years together is to preserve your autonomy and freedom during a marriage. But it’s also important to create somebody’s space in your life. Many parts of your life will adjust to this positive shift when you find the one and will normalize your new routines. Their absence will seem strange “naturally.”
10. You become “we.”
The last item after checking all the other boxes we mentioned above is just the pronoun: we. A study on the importance of using “we” and “our” as part of our natural word selection was published by psychologists at the University of Texas. When you become a team with your significant other, it will give you the pleasure of talking about the issues you share, not just talking about yourself.
It may not be as fun for your other mates who have to listen to your stories. But it’s a wonderful token of a life-long love to become a “we.”
Illustrated by Alena Tsarkova
