We’ll never be able to properly understand the complexities of dating. Nikki Jabs, who enjoys documenting her dating life on TikTok, cried when her now-ex boyfriend ordered an Uber to take her home because he was “embarrassed” by her appearance. The woman from Michigan filmed herself sobbing after leaving his residence and returning to her van, dejected and hurt.
When Nikki’s Hinge date, Greg, invited her to a business party to meet her friends and coworkers, she was ecstatic.
She prepared for the big launch of a retail store where he works by spending 40 minutes on her makeup. With a long-sleeved black crop top and high-waist rosegold slacks, she went for a casual-formal look. She was dressed in a crimson coat when she videotaped herself in the elevator on her way home.
Her “very lovely” partner, on the other hand, couldn’t stomach seeing her dressed up like that at the event.
“He was too ashamed to be seen with me in this clothing,” she wrote, “so he drove me home in an Uber and skipped the opening.”
Nikki previously updated her followers on her first date with the man from Hinge, whom she dubbed Greg.
“He seemed shy, so I was kind of carrying the whole conversation,” she says in the tape. “But finally it warmed up, and we’re on our second drink.” “He thinks I’m the most fascinating person he’s ever met, and he’s incredibly nice.”
“He stated I was so beautiful that I made him uneasy,” she said as they returned to his apartment and he overcame his shyness.
Nikki described it as “the happiest weekend” of her life at the time, when Greg invited her to remain with him indefinitely. He oohed and aahed over her “What gave me such good fortune? You’re fantastic, and I’m incredibly fortunate to have met you.”
Nikki, who lives in a van with her cat, carried on the storey. “‘I’m not going anywhere,’ I said. ‘You can stay here as long as you want,’ he says. ‘Don’t tell me that because I might never go,’ I said. ‘I’d be fine with it,’ he replied.”
Greg continued to express his love and adoration for her, adding he’s “obsessed” and “head over heels” in love with her.
But, as the latest occurrence unfolded, it all turned into another heartbreak. People inquired about the event’s details, which she finally provided.
“I went to pick him up from work today, and we planned to go out to dinner before going to his work function. He couldn’t quit gazing at me as he got into the car.”
“I had a feeling something bad was going to happen. “Why do you keep staring at me?” I continued wondering. ‘Oh, nothing,’ he continued replying.”
She went on to say, “Finally, he said, ‘You just look so beautiful.’ ‘Is this your way of informing me that I’m overdressed?’ I ask. ‘Well, maybe not for supper,’ he responded.”
“He’s told me several times this week that I’m overdressed and that I should wear a baggy sweater,” she says.
“‘Are you going to be embarrassed if I show up to your work function looking like this?’ I said. I asked, ‘Do you want me to go home and change?’ He didn’t respond, so I asked, ‘Do you want me to go home and change?’ ‘I just feel so horrible right now,’ he remarked. We headed to the restaurant, but I was upset because this had been going on for weeks.”
“I told myself at the restaurant, ‘I’m either going like this or I’m not going at all.’ ‘Well, then, may I call you an Uber?’ he asked. ‘Sure, yes, call me an Uber,’ I said.
I took an Uber back to his apartment, where I’d been staying for the past three weeks, packed up all of my belongings, and am now back in my van.
Nikki began pointing out the oblique signals “It all started with a few passing remarks over the past few weeks, such as, ‘Why are you wearing heels?’ When you wear tennis shoes, I like it. Why do you have so much makeup on? When you’re natural, I really enjoy it.'”
She went on to say, “He thought this was too revealing for his professional function.” “His current employer is an athleisure apparel firm. He was dressed casually in jogging trousers and running shoes.”
She’s officially back in her vehicle, having moved out while Greg was still at a work function.
People quickly pointed out that Greg appeared to be attempting to exert control over her life. As one person put it, “This was done to me by my ex. It has nothing to do with your appearance. He was self-conscious about something and tried to make it your issue.”
Another person remarked, “He should have been clear about your attire if it was so crucial and detailed. Toss him out the door.”
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