One survey found that 2.2 per cent of married people reported having more than one partner over the course of a year. Generally, according to reports, there are affairs between 15–25 per cent of married Americans and men are more likely to engage in adultery than women. And there’s a problem as to why husbands who cheat aren’t ready to divorce but still cheat.
1. His home is still the best place, in his opinion.
He knows you forever, you’re cooking for him and you’re taking care of the children. Because he wants to try something new, not necessarily because he wants to change his life, he is comfortable with his life and is looking for an affair. Home for such a husband is a chateau.
Within his mind, there is no doubt as to whether he will leave. He doesn’t want this, because it would be hard for him to manage the house without his wife. There may no longer be any love or passion, but friendship and respect do exist. He just wants a zone of comfort, where he can take the best nap.
2. He is just looking for a “break.”
A CEO of one dating site for married persons seeking affairs said in an interview that when you have a good relationship with your partner there are many of these types of cases. They are part of a good family group, both have duties but in this case, cheaters are not seeking a break-up.
There is great love among partners, but having an affair is only a time to relax and feel adventurous.
3. He thought he could find the answer about life in an affair, but hasn’t yet.
An interesting story about a husband cheating on his wife. Indeed, a complete disaster. The woman went through the whole spectrum of feelings but she started asking why after a while. He did not look as though he wanted to leave his home.
The answer to that was simple. He didn’t do it because something was wrong with her, or because she was a terrible wife. He did so because he was wrong with something.
Most men think something will change if there’s a new woman and they’ll be happy but it doesn’t happen. We love their wives, but they may still encounter certain psychological issues.
4. He actually loves his wife.
One woman shared her story of a married guy dating. He was a gentleman and a lovely family man. And the main thing was he’d not left his wife. So, a lot of us might wonder why he’s behaving like this.
Another man was in a position to answer that question. He had been married happily for over 20 years and had children. And yes, he loved his wife a lot but for over 15 years he had been cheating. For him, it is just a “fetich.” He also feels guilty about it at the same time.
5. He doesn’t have enough courage to change his life completely.
He has already lived with his wife for 10 years and was a great husband and father, but he finds his soulmate unexpectedly. Therapist Douglas LaBier calls this affair “Mind-Body.” This new sensation can be very powerful, consuming you from head to toe.
Sometimes in these situations, some men may choose to divorce and marry again, but others may not. Their wife still has a huge connection.
6. He feels that there are strong chains, like children or a mortgage.
A lawyer who has dealt with many divorces shared her experience, saying separation is very painful but stopping being a full-time parent is particularly painful. Such issues can deter other couples from divorcing, even though they aren’t happy together.
There may be no love between the spouses anymore, but the responsibilities are still there and those chains can be very strong.
7. He doesn’t want to go through the pain of getting a divorce.
The word “divorce” evokes millions of bad associations and emotions. This includes dealing with attorneys, battling, dividing property and bargaining on handling children’s time.
Many people would prefer to leave everything as it is just so that they don’t have to go through the tears, rage, and shouting that comes with that experience. Even if the relationship is no longer safe, finding a partner is just easier.
He still doesn’t want to bother his children and wife on top of this.
8. He realized he made a mistake when having an affair.
A man opened up with her close friend who had cheated on his wife. He fully understood it was a gruesome mistake, but now he’s in pain. The guy doesn’t know what to do, or whether he should tell his wife.
Of course, there are many thoughts about whether he should confess or not, but even if she finds out about it, because he still loves her he doesn’t want to break up with her.
Would you rather divorce your husband or forgive him if you find out he has an affair? Do you believe multiple people can love at once? Please let us share your stories below!