According to one theory, single people experience more depression in the weeks leading up to the holidays. Is this feeling, however, really that bad? When we are alone, we will be able to learn about our own needs and desires, as well as achieve and attain our own lofty goals.
- I have complete freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want. I have the choice of staying up late if I so choose. I can buy anything if I want to. I can watch a movie if I want to. I can listen to music if I want to. I can reorganise or redecorate my apartment whenever I want. I have control of how I spend my time. I have complete control over how I spend my money. I have the option of saving my money in a variety of ways. Do I have a sense of loneliness? I’ll confess that I’m guilty of this at times.But I have a nice group of friends. I can hang out with my friends if I want to, or if anyone wants to hang out with me. I can stay at home if I don’t feel like going out. © photon3on / Reddit
- I remember running home every day because I knew I’d have to justify myself if I was even 5 minutes late getting in the house. Then I’d arrive exactly on time, and he’d still be in a foul mood. Now I can spend the whole day driving around doing nothing and not having to justify myself to anybody, and the prospect of returning home is actually appealing. © Seducedbyfish / Reddit
- When I’m relaxing on my days off, I don’t have to think about how I look or what I’m wearing. No issue with a messy bun, no lipstick, and no pants. © not-a-real_username / Reddit
- Being single, to be honest, allowed me to concentrate more on finishing my undergrad degree, which I just completed last week. © njf175 / Reddit
- Do you want to see a movie? I get to do what I like and don’t have to argue over what we’re all in the mood for, or who gets to choose, or “I don’t like horror movies, let’s watch a rom-com!” Do you want to grab a bite to eat? I go get what sounds good to me and don’t waste an hour debating what sounds good to you but not to me, then me but not you,Finally, we agree on something none of us particularly likes but that we can both live with when all I want is sushi. Want to sleep until noon on my day off, then get up and spend the afternoon playing video games? Nobody can bully me for it or argue that I’m not paying attention to them because it’s my decision.I’m having a bad day and don’t feel like speaking or expressing myself? Since we’re dating, I don’t have to speak to someone or feel obligated to “open up” to them. © DomLite / Reddit
- All in my house is in the same place it was when I left it. While I am not currently single, this is how I remember myself when I was. Some people have a variety of strange habits that make life complicated for you. Do you want to clean a pan? Someone has piled plates in the sink! Are you looking for your keys? Someone has borrowed yours because they couldn’t find theirs and feel they’re in their coat pocket! What happened to the coat? They are unable to remember. © bsnimunf / Reddit
- You don’t have to recall obscure dates, buy extra presents for particular individuals during the holidays, explain my purchases, exchange food, or even decide on food. © UBootCaptain / Reddit
- Flirting is a great way to pass the time. Plus, there’s the prospect of starting a new relationship to look forward to! It’s incredible. © F22man / Reddit
- I’ve been single for the majority of my adult life, and living with a partner irritates me greatly. Because of the lack of sleep I was having, I had a partner who snored, which had a significant impact on me. You get used to doing things a certain way, and then someone asks you to do them in a different way. I don’t really want to be single, but I do want to live alone. © 11015h4d0wR34lm / Reddit
- If that’s what I want for dinner, I can eat a sandwich or popcorn. © momination / Reddit
- For the past ten years, I’ve been single. All of my money belongs to me. I have complete control of my time. My entire focus is directed in the direction I want. I simply try to find happiness in my life. © Nope_Nope_Nope_0 / Reddit
- Have you ever gotten off work at an unsuitable hour? When all I want to do is close my eyes and relax, I don’t have to sneak into bed and then have an uncomfortable conversation that I’m too exhausted to have when I wake them up and they ask what time it is, why I’m late, what stopped me, and how was my day. © DomLite / Reddit
- I’m not a big fan of being single, but I used to feel like I had to check my phone all the time when I was in a relationship. I enjoy being able to unwind and play video games, watch a movie, or socialise with friends without constantly checking my phone. © RealECW / Reddit
- If I like, I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on. I can also leave something on the table for two weeks and it will still be there when I return. © GoatSculpture / Reddit
- I have a lot of interests. I couldn’t do all of them while I was in a relationship. It was also difficult for me to find time for schoolwork. I’ve been playing music, drawing, coding, and other creative endeavours now that I’m no longer in a relationship. I finished designing and fabricating the wooden case for some headphones I’m creating today. © artisnotdefined / Reddit
- After putting up with a lot of disrespect from him and his supporters, I called it quits in July. I had set aside a large sum of money for our wedding, but now I can use it to buy stuff I’ve wanted for a long time. Instead of becoming someone’s fiancée, I’m finally taking care of myself and learning more about who I am as a person. © celestialnight994 / Reddit
- I have complete freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without having to check in with anyone. Also, no woman should have to deal with my dysfunctional family. © yeetg**mcnechass / Reddit
- My apartment is tidy and clean, and most importantly, it is almost completely empty. © TheCrimsonChariot / Reddit
- After becoming single for the first time in a few years, I learned to love myself without wanting someone else’s affirmation. © FinalTourist / Reddit
- When making life choices, I don’t want to consider the desires and needs of others. © maraca101 / Reddit
- I’d rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t value my affection and love. © sinderella666×0x / Reddit
- As someone who recently ended a three-year relationship, one of the greatest aspects that makes me happier about being single is being able to see myself clearly again. You don’t know how much being in a relationship can blind you to how much you’ve changed, or how love can numb you to some things until you’re no longer in one.When I got out of that relationship and the initial crying and depression subsided, I gradually realised how much happier I was and how much I’d improved, some for the better and some for the worse, but it was like seeing myself through a transparent lens rather than a blurred one. © mercury111111111 / Reddit
- Call me selfish, but I prefer having the freedom to wake up and go to bed whenever I want, to decorate and organise my home (which I purchased and paid off on my own), to make my own plans and schedules, to watch/read/play whatever I want, to buy and wear whatever I want, and to cook and eat whatever I want (and not have to share), and to set long-term financial and career goals without worrying about them clashing with those of others. © kokoromelody / Reddit
- I have more time to play video games, watch movies, make the most expensive Lego sets, and concentrate on my job more. I despise constantly checking my phone for fear of missing my partner’s messages and having to deal with a dumb argument. That is not to suggest that all partners are like that, but it has been my experience. © Meese46290 / Reddit
- Only my own stressors are causing me to be stressed. I’m not obligated to help anyone else get through theirs. © 01kaj10 / Reddit
- Since I agreed to avoid dating, I discovered who I am. I’ve been single for four years and I’m just happy with who I’ve become. I was able to define myself, my objectives, and who I want to become. © kylo_drew / Reddit
- I recently read an article that really explained my thoughts on the topic. People who are married are, on average, marginally happier than people who are not married, according to studies. People have internalised the belief that marriage equals happiness, which has been established for a long time. However, when you break down the numbers in that, you’ll see that. What it seems to be is that people in happy relationships are much happier than anyone else, and those in unhappy marriages are much less happy. As a result, being in a happy relationship is the ideal situation. Being single, on the other hand, is a much better option than being in a poor relationship.So to me, it’s not the best, but it’s the second-best, which is very healthy. It’s as if you don’t own a Jaguar but do own a Honda, which is dependable and takes you where you need to go. At the very least, you’re not driving a 1970s vehicle with a fuel-line leak and a plastic Jaguar sculpture taped to the windshield. © TheBaddestPatsy / Reddit
- I never want to have to think about what’s going on on the other side of the door when I turn the key in the lock. I don’t want to have to deal with other people’s feelings or walk on eggshells. I enjoy the sense of solitude that comes with having my own room. I really despise the responsibilities that come with relationships. I don’t want to go to other people’s parties or buy gifts for in-laws. Basically, I’m a selfish. © UnfeelingSelfishGirl / Reddit
- The fear of returning home simply because you don’t know your significant other’s mood and want to avoid triggering something. Then I’m trying to figure out whether it’s a nice day, in which case I’m supposed to say hello with a kiss, or a poor day, in which case I’m supposed to not disturb them at all, which is such a bad feeling. I’m just now learning to appreciate returning home. © ElDschi / Reddit
- I’ve been in abusive relationships before, and I still believe that being alone is preferable to being with the wrong guy. I’m not sorry I went through it, but I’m glad it’s over with. Now I’m hoping to find something better. © dark_blue_7 / Reddit
- I have a queen bed in which I can sleep in one half and store books and my Nintendo Switch in the other. When I’m too lazy to get out of bed on weekends, my bed makes the perfect nightstand for all of my books. There is no one there for whom I need to shift things to make room for them to sleep. © Amazing_Ratio_7968 / Reddit
- I have the ability to save money. I only spent $50 on food in the last three months, aside from rent, utilities, and petrol. © suitology / Reddit
- There will be no wrangling about where to spend the holidays. © hostess_cupcake / Reddit
- I’m only able to hang out with my friends when I’m in the mood. I’m an introvert who used to date an extrovert who couldn’t go a weekend without going out or socialising at least five times. He’d insist on pulling me along or inviting his buddies to his house. That was a nightmare for me, Instead of having to entertain guests who weren’t even good to me half of the time, I just wanted to chill on my own or spend quality time with my family. © jijijojijijijio / Reddit
- I can speak to myself out loud and no one will think it’s strange. You’re a nutcase if someone else hears you talking to yourself, but if no one hears you, it’s perfect. © KadTheHunter / Reddit
- I can do whatever I want and not feel bad about it because I’m alone. © Dawulf187falke / Reddit
- This is probably what I miss the most as a married man (with children). Especially the children, man. It’s one thing to have a partner to ask for permission from, but having children is a totally different scenario. My kid will wake up at 7 a.m., regardless of what I do tonight. It must be updated, fed, and so on. © IronPylons / Reddit
How do you feel about becoming a single person? Do you believe it has more advantages or disadvantages?
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